An ultimate dilemma…telling your bff that she could do better.   I had a friend that would run from the good men and run to the men that you shouldn’t touch with a 10 foot pole.  You know the type; no job, kinda ugly, body odor, temper, lives with parents, just got arrested.   Mmmm Sexy!

Girls night out would be great – get dressed up, look sexy, smellin’ good.  An evening of dancing, a little drinking, and lots of laughs.    We all probably had the hopes of finding a guy…sometimes we’d help each other ditch a few in the club.   But there would be the one guy that she would find…the biggest loser around and she would be attached.   The rest of us gals would stand back and say…”What is she thinking?” as we shook our heads in disapproval.

Is it up to us to say?  Don’t friends get some approval?  In my world - it depends.  I don’t have to date the guy that looks like Uncle Fester with a very bad temper problem, or the guy that gets me high from the smell of weed wafting off his leather jacket (in the middle of July) – did I mention he has an unusually large head?  She has to date him – not me.  Blech! 

So what do you do if you don’t approve?  My advice is to be her friend when she needs you as a friend.   Only give advice if she asks for it, unless, she is being used or abused.  When she asks for your advice, start with, “well, I don’t think you’re going to like what I’m about to say…but…” or “you know we wouldn’t be friends if I couldn’t be honest with you.”

Probably not the best thing to start with, “I think you’re an idiot or that guy is really gross,”  by this time she may already be in love with him and planning the color of your bridesmaid dress.  

So, what would you do to tell your friend she could do better?  What if she won’t hear any of it?  Has this ever happened to you?